You Don't Like Your Own Medicine?

This week the State of California announced that they would return the designations "bride" and "groom" to California marriage licenses. The designations were removed after same sex marriage was made legal in California and replaced with the terms "Partner A" and "Partner B". (I got to be partner A on our form!)

Well since this happened a whole lot of people have been complaining about the new forms. They don't want to be "Partner A" and "Partner B", they want to be "bride" and "groom". So now you have the option of checking a little box and designating yourself bride and groom.

So here is my news to you. I want to be "Married". I don't want to be a "domestic partner" or "civilly unionized". I want to say "this is my husband", not "this is someone I live with in the State of California with whom I share many of the rights and responsibilities shared by married people."

Many of the people out there fighting to pass prop 8 say that gays and lesbians already have the rights of married people in California, so why does it matter what you call it? The people who fought to have "bride" and "groom" brought back to the California marriage license application know that it matters what you call things. There is power in our words.

So I am telling you all that while I am still planning a wedding, for the next four weeks I really think it's time to kick up the political activism up a notch. As we get closer to the election I ask all of you bloggers out there on the internet, all of you who have neighbors and all of you who have family and friends that believe that it is important to ensure these rights are retained to make sure your audience gets out and votes.

Not only here in California, but also in Florida and any other states where the rights of a gay minority are threatened by the lies and closed-mindedness of a small group of people. So get out the vote, and contribute some money to the Campaign Against Prop 8. It's going to happen someday, let's make that someday November 4th, 2008.

To Vote, Or Not To Vote

Hey everyone quick update! If you were thinking about voting against gay rights the election has been changed to November 5th, everyone else can still show up on the 4th.

Awesome Wedding Cake

If I were marrying my clone we would seriously consider these as possible wedding cakes. My current soon to be husband, not so much probably. I can't hold it against him though because we are still going to have a great wedding and an awesome cake.

I guess if you're not a video game nerd you don't understand how big a part Mario played in my childhood. He gave paunchy people round the world hope that they too could be the hero and get the princess (well, I didn't want the princess, but her dress is very pretty).

The pix come courtesy of Cake Wrecks.

Friday Weigh-In #4

Well I managed to lose another two pounds this week, so yay me! My goal is inching ever closer, like a turtle crawling over large pieces of pumpkin pie. I kind of cheated myself on gym going this week though, I only went twice, but it has been a crazy week.

This weekend I am off to LoveFest in San Francisco, and it is going to kick ass! I know San Fran is going to be bad for the waistline what with visits to Ghirardelli Square and the such, but hopefully I will be doing enough dancing and walking to burn those calories off!

I had a great meeting with a florist last night, but to be more precise she'd probably be more of a floral designer or floral artist even. Will post all about it when I get back, ciao.

A Real Gay Wedding in Purple

Usually when you ask me about colors I don't like, purple is usually the first thing out of my mouth. Not that I have anything against purple specifically, it's a lovely color, just not my first choice for something to wear large amounts of. Maybe it dates back to being young and at some point being forced to wear a purple shirt by my mother and sort of remembering feeling like a pudgy little grape.

Then when e-mailing a florist about my ideas and asking where here inspiration might lead her she said she was thinking touches of purple.

Purple? Really?

Then I came across these pictures on Gay Weddings by The Knot and the idea started to grow on me. I think I am liking the idea of purple accents. Gray jackets with purple ties, love it. There will be lots of green at our wedding since that is currently one of my favorite colors, and the purple I think would tie in really well.

I am meeting with the florist today! We'll see how this whole purple thing may work out for us.