Someday My Prince Will Come

Our guests received their save the dates this week! We just used the standard Save The Date's sent out by Disney, which is basically a letter printed on nice paper. I just didn't feel like investing a lot of time or money into something I don't see as all that important.

I will post them later this week.

I am hoping to get some pictures of another great wedding for you soon. Something that totally captures the fairytale essence of Disney Weddings. That got me thinking though, if women dream of being princesses on their wedding day, where does that leave guys?

When I think of princes they don't usually do much for me. Either you get "Purple Rain" or tights and a cape. Not that there's anything wrong with a man in tights, think ballet or Cirque Du Soleil, yum, but not something I really aspire to.

Then I ran across these drawings from David Kawena on the internet, and suddenly I found a prince I wouldn't mind living happily ever after with. I just think it's interesting that somebody took some of the naughty thoughts I used to get when looking at Prince Eric from The Little Mermaid and fleshed them out.

He even gayed them up a notch, though seriously, these guys were always a little gay to begin with right?

Gay Weddings From The Knot

A few days ago Meg over at a A Practical Wedding wrote a lists of some of the things she did and did not like about weddings. Under the dislikes she mentioned new Gay Weddings by the Knot.

For those of you unfamiliar the Knot is the Wal-Mart of the online wedding community. Sort of a one-stop shop for anything you may need to know or buy for your wedding (and also like Wal-Mart considered by many to be evil and a symbol of all that is wrong with everything, I have no opinion on that front).

Anyway, Meg's gripe was that the gay knot is it's own independent website, instead of just being introduced as part of the regular knot website, a sort of separate but equal mentality. This aspect of it did not really bother me as much as her.

I think what did bother me is this sort of idea that the wedding industry might just be looking at us as great big walking bags of cash, inconspicuously marked with a giant "$". I feel like there's all these people out there saying, "Let's legalize gay marriage because it's a way for me to make more money."

On the other hand, I know this is America, and if you want to get people to do something you have to relate it to money. Which is why fines are such an efficient way of enforcing the law. If the prospect of being able to make money from me and my brethren is going to encourage you to fight for gay marriage, I feel like we are at a point in the battle where we need all the help we can get and can't really be too choosy about philosophies.

Are there any hockey-moms for gay marriage out there?

What do I like about the site? Being able to see pictures of what other people are doing with their weddings that I can relate to. Hearing stories from people going through some of the problems we're going through. A lot of these issues are faced by all soon to be married couples, but there are some issues particular to gays and lesbians.

For these reasons I don't think it's necessarily terrible for the website to be separate from the main site. I didn't like the knot because I found it to be very unhelpful. There was just too much information and advertising to be able to find the substance I needed.

I am not even in love with the Gay knot. To date the best resource I have found to navigate the madness of this industry are the blogs written by soon to be married people, so much so that they inspired me to do this myself and hopefully help others sort through all the static out there in wedding land.

Gay Wedding Resource from the LA Gay and Lesbian Center

The LA Gay and Lesbian Center has put together a website that's filled with really useful information for gay and lesbian couples planning to get married. The LA Gay Wedding Guide has vendors, information, and really great section with legal answers to some questions that come up often.

The vendor recommendation areas are still a little sparse, but honestly sometimes when you are planning a wedding less choices can make the entire process a little less stressful. Have you ever gone to a restaurant and they bring out a five page menu and you have no idea what you want?

This is a great place to begin some wedding planning, but seeming as there is no large gay wedding industry yet gay people are still on their own when it comes to lots of things. I find it much easier to plan because of this though, because there aren't new vendors popping up every day saying "you need this to make your day perfect." The fact is you don't need anything to make your day perfect except for your betrothed, and maybe a delicious cake.

Same Sex Wedding Expo

On Wednesday of last week Michael and I had the good fortune of attending a same-sex wedding expo at the japanese garden on the grounds of California State University in Long Beach.


We had such a great time tasting wedding cake and appetizers, and just enjoying the beautiful setting. If you need a gorgeous outdoor location to have a wedding or any other event and are in the area definitely consider the garden.

It was great being able to meet vendors without all the hassle of large bridal shows. The turn-out was decent, but not overly crowded, so that really allowed some time to really talk to some of the vendors. We have already decided on lots of things, but tuxedo rental and floral are still up in the air, so it was very handy to have lots of people there we could talk to at once.

I am really excite about using Allen's Tuxedos in Anaheim. Their selection seems to be really good and the woman we met at the expo is the sort of person that seems to really know her business. Also, she seems to be the kind of woman that always says what's on her mind, and people like that have a way of getting on my good side.

We are still exploring on the floral front. I saw one florist whose work really impressed me, however I was unimpressed with his customer service skills. I'm not only buying goods and services from these people, these are people that I am going to have to work with. I feel the same way about vendors I hire at work, I need to know you can do your job, but I also need to know we can communicate.