Sometimes . . .

Sometimes wedding planning can be stressful.

and sometimes we can fixate on finding the perfect first dance song.

and sometimes when we get stressed we get hypersensitive.

and sometimes a comment is taken out of context and our feelings get hurt.

and sometimes we mope around for the entire next day even though we should know better.

and sometimes your husband-to-be sends you flowers to cheer you up and say he's sorry.

and sometimes those flowers show up a day late which sort of defeated the purpose of cheering you up because you felt better already.

but then you remember why you wanted to marry this guy in the first place.

because he's the type of guy that sends you flowers 12 days before your wedding to cheer you up and say he's sorry even though there was plenty of blame to go around and the whole thing wasn't that big a deal anyway.

Where Have I Been?

Excuse time! Muy muy busy!

We had our food tasting at the Disneyland hotel two weeks ago, everything was great. The food is good, the chicken is moist, the cake is, well lets just say my guests might find that they get a box of animal crackers while I try to finish off a three tier cake by myself.

Invitations went out this week! Took us a little bit of time to get them all out. Sensible fiance talked me into using standard postal format for the envelopes, which I thought would be hideous, but turned out to be very plain and stark in a cool way, that totally offset the crazy colorfulness that happens when you open the envelope.

Standard postal format? Apparently the post office got new scanners a year or so ago, and it want all caps, san-serif, large type, no punctuation whatsoever. Looks like this:

MR and MR FAKE NAME
123 FAKE ST
FAKEVILLE CA 12345-6789

Anybody who sends out large quantities of mail knows that if you don't follow the format, you get a lot of mail back. We wanted these to get to their recipients. We wanted them to get there fast. They did. Mailed on a Saturday evening from Long Beach California, arrived as far as tiny town Oklahoma on Monday afternoon. Awesome.

Also I bought a Cricut Expression machine. Love It. It cuts paper. Love it. It makes things like this. Out of cut paper pieces you glue together. I love it.


My friend says if you love it so much why don't you marry it? I just might.

Welcome Back Me!

I feel a little bit like that guy that said he was totally gonna call you but never did. Except I'm calling you right now with a whole bunch of excuses!

Well first of all December is my absolute worst month at work. It is crazy busy. Every year my organization builds the Donate Life Rose Parade Float. Lucky me is the one who takes all the pictures and video and posts them on the web real time. It's a handful to say the least.

So with all the work happenings and not sleeping very much blogging and wedding stuff fell way to the bottom of my priorities.

Also my attitude about this whole wedding has shifted. Don't get me wrong, I'm still very excited to be getting married, but the passing of Prop 8 affected me in a deep way.

To borrow an idea Peonies and Polaroids borrowed from A Practical Wedding who borrowed it from East Side Bride: Glitter.

To be more precise the knocking-off of glitter, figuratively. A bit of glitter got knocked off our wedding with the passage of prop 8, people voting to deny you the right to get married and people suing to dissolve your marriage will kind of do that.

Not that it's an entirely bad thing. It knocked me down off my cloud and made me stop caring about all the details that won't be so important and made me appreciate what a great day it's going to be.

I'm going to be there. My man's going to be there. My family is going to be there. My friends will be there. We're going to have a good day.

And not to worry, I'm gonna throw some paint on it and toss some glitter on it, some of it is bound to stick, right?

A Little Levity Before The Holiday

I took this from Dingmoonment as I love to know details about people who I don't personally know. What can I say, I'm a voyeur. And now exhibitionist.

Marital Status?
Legally married, but getting weddinged.

How long have you been toget​her?
4.5 Years

How long did you know each other​ befor​e you start​ed datin​g?
Not at all

Who asked​ who out?
Mike

How old are each of you?
41 and 29

What are your astro​logic​al signs​?
Aries, Sagitarius

​How tall are each of you?
5'9.75'', 6'3''

Whose mothe​r do you see the most?
Luis'

Whose sibli​ngs do/​did you see the most?​
Luis'

Do you have any child​ren toget​her?
No

​​Do you have any pets?
Yes

What’​s the harde​st on you as a coupl​e?
Sticking a homebody and a restless soul together.

What do you both do for a livin​g?​
Graphic Design, Real Estate

Is that what you went to schoo​l for?
No

​Did you both go to the same schoo​l?​
No

Are you from the same homet​own?
No

Do you live in the same town now?
No

Who is the smart​est?​
Michael

Who is the most sensi​tive?​
Luis

Where​ do you eat out most as a coupl​e?​
Super Mex

Where​ do you shop the most as a coupl​e?
Costco

​Where​ is the furth​est you two have trave​led toget​her as a coupl​e?​
Nashville

Who has the best group​ of frien​ds?
Luis

Who has the crazi​est exes?
Michael

Who has the worst​ tempe​r?​
Luis

Who does the cooki​ng?​
Michael

Who is more socia​l?
Luis

Who is the neat-​freak​?​
Michael

Who is the most stubb​orn?​
Luis

Who hogs the bed?
Luis

Who wakes​ up earli​er?
Michael

Where​ was your first​ date?​
The Equator coffee house in Pasadena

Who said I Love You first​?​
Michael?

Who has the bigge​r famil​y?
Michael

Who gives flowe​rs the most often​?
Michael

How do you spend​ Thanksgiving?
Usually going between two places, this year bringing it all together. Wish us luck

Who is more jealo​us?
Luis

Do you have littl​e pet names​ for each other​?​
Yes

How long did it take to get serio​us?​
From the start

Who eats more?
Luis

Who sings​ bette​r?​
Michael

Who’s​ older​?​
Michael

Who does the laund​ry?​
Michael

Who does the dishe​s?​
Michael

Who’s​ bette​r with the compu​ter?
Luis

Who drive​s?​ ​
Tie

Who picks​ where​ you go to dinne​r?​
Tie

Who is the first​ one to admit​ when they’​re wrong​?​
Michael

Who named​ your pet?
Michael

Who kisse​d who first​?​
Michael asked if he could

Who has more tatto​os?​
Michael

Who eats more sweet​s?​
Tie

Who cries​ more?​
Luis

Who's the traditionalist?
Michael

Who's the most sentimental?
Luis

May you all have a great Thanksgiving! Even as second-class citizens, we have much to be grateful for.

Someday My Prince Will Come

Our guests received their save the dates this week! We just used the standard Save The Date's sent out by Disney, which is basically a letter printed on nice paper. I just didn't feel like investing a lot of time or money into something I don't see as all that important.

I will post them later this week.

I am hoping to get some pictures of another great wedding for you soon. Something that totally captures the fairytale essence of Disney Weddings. That got me thinking though, if women dream of being princesses on their wedding day, where does that leave guys?

When I think of princes they don't usually do much for me. Either you get "Purple Rain" or tights and a cape. Not that there's anything wrong with a man in tights, think ballet or Cirque Du Soleil, yum, but not something I really aspire to.

Then I ran across these drawings from David Kawena on the internet, and suddenly I found a prince I wouldn't mind living happily ever after with. I just think it's interesting that somebody took some of the naughty thoughts I used to get when looking at Prince Eric from The Little Mermaid and fleshed them out.

He even gayed them up a notch, though seriously, these guys were always a little gay to begin with right?

Random Thought for the Day

In California: Now all the good ones will be gay and married.